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Teaching our Children the social graces.

Teaching our Children the social graces.

October 31, 2023

One of the many things we hear today is the lack of encouragement and training our children are getting in the social graces and manners. I Googled "What are the Social Graces?"  The following is the definition that I chose to explain them in as close to a description that I believe we should be teaching our children and grandchildren.  They include the common courtesy of mutual respect. 

  1. Use proper greeting:

Always greet people with a smile and a hello. If you’re not sure what to say, a simple “Hello, how are you?” will suffice. When meeting someone for the first time, it is also important to introduce yourself and make eye contact while shaking hands.

  1. Say “please” and “thank you”

These are basic manners that show gratitude and respect. Always say “please” when making a request and “thank you” when receiving help from others.

  1. Practice good table manners

This includes using utensils properly, keeping your elbows off the table, and chewing with your mouth closed. Also, wait until everyone is served before starting to eat.

  1. Be mindful of your language

Avoid using foul language, especially in public places or around children. Use polite and respectful language at all times.

  1. Respect personal space

Don’t stand too close to people, and always ask before touching someone. Be aware of your surroundings and respect people’s privacy.

  1. Dress appropriately

Dress appropriately for the occasion and location, taking into account the dress code and cultural norms. If you are unsure of the dress code, remember that is always better to be slightly over-dressed than under-dressed.

Take care of your personal hygiene, including bathing regularly, brushing your teeth, and wearing clean clothes.

  1. Be a good listener

Pay attention to what people are saying and show interest in their opinions. Avoid interrupting or dominating the conversation. Also, be respectful and considerate of other people’s opinions.

  1. Put your phone away

Avoid using your phone or other electronic devices when in the presence of others, especially during a conversation or meeting.

  1. Practice good communication

Be clear and concise when communicating with others. Avoid using slang or jargon that may be unfamiliar to the other person. Be mindful of your non-verbal communication, such as body language, as it can convey a lot of information about your intentions and emotions

  1. Be punctual

Show respect for other people’s time by being punctual for appointments and meetings. If you’re running late, let the other person know as soon as possible.

My opinion:

I may not agree with some peoples choices but that does not mean that their choice is any more or less of an acceptable choice. or that I should treat them with anything other than respect and dignity.   For example:  I don't find Tattoo's to be particularly attractive or have any desire to see them displayed in public or business settings.  I agree that they can be a personal expression of art, religion, and style.  They can also be vulgar, distasteful, and offensive.   I have seen some beautiful people with tattoos.  I think they would be beautiful even without the tattoo. And yes there is a difference between a cute little frog or rose on ones ankle versus numbers or  swastikas' tattooed on someone's wrist.  My preference would be no tattoos.  But if I don't see them or they are stylishly hidden or covered or I am not asked to publicly approve, acknowledge, or support their personal decision.  Fine,  Its your choice.  It doesn't make you any less of a fine human being unless it egregiously violates other facets of life and the social graces.

   I guess my point is, some people demand  consideration, respect, and the social graces, and will be quick to point out if you violate those, but in the process they violate the very same respect, consideration, and social graces in return.  Lets practice to get better.  Lets teach our Children.  Where is Miss Manners when you need help?

Important The opinions expressed are mine and not to be  considered an investment recommendation or solicitation of any specific product or program.

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